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Relationship Matters

How To Have a More Enjoyable Age Gap Relationship

Written by: Akua Hinds

September 29, 2015

 

How to have a more enjoyable age gap relationship, written by Akua Hinds

Dating someone who is similar in age to yourself might be your goal, but life does not always turn out the way you think it will.  When love knocks on your door and you let it in, that means accepting the stats of the person who you join forces with.  Accept that you have no control over the physical appearance, genetics, background, and birthday of your mate.  And, if there is a significant age difference between you and your love match, you might need to make an extra effort not to make the age difference a bigger deal than it needs to be. Here are some tips on how to take the stress out of making an age gap relationship work:

Avoid making comparisons

Does it really matter that your significant other was riding a bicycle with training wheels at the same time that you received your driver’s licence?  When you graduated high school and your current partner was still in elementary school, you wouldn’t have been able to date, but you are (hopefully) able to date each other now.  As long as you or your love interest is at least 18 years of age, you are legal adults and there is nothing wrong with being together now. You’ll feel freaked out by the age difference between you two if you keep thinking about where you were in life compared to where your mate was. Focus on enjoying the time you two spend together NOW as you explore the journey of your relationship together. 

Ditch the jokes

You might enjoy making jokes about the age difference, but your partner might not feel the same way.  No one enjoys being put down because of their age or lack of experience, even if it is done in jest. Instead of teasing your companion, try complementing them on their outlooks on life.  By openly showing your admiration for your mate, he or she will probably appreciate your affection and return the favor.  Score!

Unite against the naysayers

You and your partner should present a united front.

They know who they are; the busybodies who make it their personal mission to sprinkle judgmental and negative vibrations to everyone who is living their lives in a unique and non-conventional way.  Unfortunately, you know who those people are too because you and your mate are constantly on the receiving end of their criticism.  The age difference in your relationship should not affect any one outside of your union, and no one except for you and your loved one have the right to decide whether it should be a factor in the two of you being together. Make a pact with each other that neither of you will tolerate blatant negativity shown towards your relationship.  Make it clear to people who don’t support your love due to the age difference that any interference to drive you two apart will not be accepted by either of you.

Work with what you have

Obviously, you two wouldn’t be together unless you shared common interests, values, and goals.  Remind yourselves why your relationship works.  Compatibility has more to do with personality and skill than age.  People mature and grow at their own individual paces.  Despite the age difference, you and your partner might be at similar places in your lives, and there’s certainly nothing wrong with that.  One of the nicest benefits about being part of a healthy union is that your significant other is willing to invest time in getting to know you and appreciating how your life experiences have shaped you into the person you are today.

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