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 Relationship Matters

How To Bounce Back From A Break-Up

Written by: Akua Hinds

January 29, 2015

Akua Hinds in Etobicoke, Ontario.  April 18, 2015

 

Do you remember that song “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do,” sung by Neil Sedaka? Having a relationship end can be a deeply painful experience. Your mind might be playing over all of the conversations and bittersweet memories that you experienced in your former partnership.  While it is completely normal for you to feel grief and loss about your partnership ending, you should not be focusing the majority of your thoughts on what you lost. It is important to help yourself heal your hurts so that you can create a happy and healthy life for yourself.  Here are some suggestions to help you get over your ex:

Give yourself a timeline

Creating a period of time where you allow yourself to mourn can help you to establish more control over your mindset and emotions. When it comes to achieving goals, it is important to track them.  The same applies to tracking your progress in healing from your relationship break up. You might want to give yourself only a couple of hours to stew over your breakup.  Or, maybe you feel that you need a few days to nurse your feelings. Give yourself a set amount of time to lament over what didn’t work out.  Once that time is over, be diligent and determined about focusing your thoughts on other things such as new relationship opportunities, or hobbies that you want to pursue. Write about your thoughts and feelings in a journal so that you can release some of your pent up emotions.

Read helpful material

One of the biggest benefits of living in the information age is that there is an abundance of books and articles written by individuals who want to help readers to become more motivated. Make it a point to read relationship books and articles designed for readers who need help moving on from partnerships that ended. Listening to motivational podcasts about perseverance in spite of setbacks can also be beneficial in helping you to gain perspective about the next step to take. You might think that your options are limited, however, you will learn lessons through motivational material about people in real life situations who overcame their obstacles and achieved success on their own terms.

Avoid your ex

Obviously, if you have children with your former partner, you cannot completely avoid interacting with your ex. If you are serious about moving on, you need to make it a priority to distance yourself from your former flame.  Only interact when and if you absolutely need to.  Willingly spending unnecessary time with your ex will prevent you from moving forward. Put the photos of the two of you together in a box and keep that box out of your sight. Or, if you really don’t want to hang on to the memorabilia, toss every reminder of your ex in the garbage.

Spending time in the company of other people who are positive and encouraging can help distract you from stewing about the past. It can be tempting to reminisce about days gone by when your life with your ex was in a good place. However, if you spend too much of your time reflecting on what did not work in your life, you will not be spending the time you should on preparing yourself for new and better opportunities. Discipline yourself to create a workable action plan for moving on.  Once you regularly commit to being proactive about creating new relationship and life opportunities for yourself, getting over your break up will be much easier to do. 

Akua Hinds works as a journalist, actress, music performer & instructor, owner of 3 dating sites www.InterracialDesires.net, www.RichSinglesDate.net, www.ChristianPartner.co , and independent business owner at www.PureRomance.ca/AkuaHinds & www.PureRomance.com/AkuaHinds selling passion products. Please visit www.AkuaHinds.com for more information. 

 

 

 

 

 

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