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Finding the Strength to Say No

Written by: Akua Hinds

August 4, 2017

 

 

Finding the Strength to Say No.  Written by: Akua HindsA few days ago, I had read a few recent articles written about Burt Reynolds.  I haven’t watched a ton of Reynolds’ movies, but I’ve seen him act before, and I’ve known for a long time that he’s a Hollywood sex symbol for a lot of women from his generation.  What caught my attention in the articles that I’d read was that Reynolds unabashedly declared his love and longing for Sally Field, his former co-star, and former romantic partner.  Sally Field and Burt Reynolds’ relationship ended in the mid 1980s, and I was more than a little shocked by the recent interviews I read where Reynolds said that he regrets his actions that lead to the ending of their relationship and that he still misses Field every day. I realize that some people carry lifelong torches for their former flames, but I over 35 years is long time to burn for someone who according to Reynolds, refuses to pick up the phone to contact you and has continued to avoid you for more than three decades. 

Personally, I admire Sally Field for keeping the past in the past.  I’ve experienced that myself; former flames wanting to rekindle a connection that has long since been snuffed out.  It’s very difficult to avoid getting drawn back into a former partner’s clutches, but there are many benefits to being free from the past and starting over with someone completely new. Don’t be surprised if the first person who you build a relationship with is, well, yourself!  You need to learn to fall in love with who you are before you seek a partnership with someone else.  However, it’s not uncommon for many people to jump from the frying pan straight into the fire after a break up.  In other words, they rush from one bad relationship into another bad relationship because they want to be partnered. 

Staying single for a while so that you can sort out your emotions is not easy, especially when it seems as though everyone around you is happy with their mates.  However, I’ve found that loneliness can make people feel especially vulnerable and willing to get involved in situations that aren’t particularly the healthiest ones to be in.  Getting involved with a former flame isn’t the best choice for everyone.  I’m a big believer in recycling materials like plastic, paper, and metals.  But I’ve learned through my own experiences that recycling a relationship isn’t the best idea because the issues that originally lead to the breakup are still prevalent.

It’s hard to say no to a chance to reunite with an ex if you still have feelings for him or her. But the best thing you can do yourself is to move forward and to look forward to new opportunities.  After certain life experiences, individuals should all be getting smarter.  We should all be improving our situations, not making the same terrible mistakes.  It’s not fun to listen to a broken record, and getting involved in the same type of broken relationship over and over again is silly and a waste of time.  Some rekindled relationships work out, but with over 7 billion people living on the planet, there are plenty of other people who you can start over with.  Do yourself a favour and say no to rekindling things with people who have wasted your time in the past.  Say yes to giving yourself a chance to create a positive and healthy environment whether you are single or in a pairing.  When you make the right decisions in life, things become easier and life gets better.  The strength to say no to getting involved in another bad situation is within you. 

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Akua Hinds works as a journalist, actress, music performer & instructor,  owner of 3 dating sites www.InterracialDesires.net, www.RichSinglesDate.net, www.ChristianPartner.co, and independent business owner at www.PureRomance.ca/AkuaHinds & www.PureRomance.com/AkuaHinds selling passion products.  Please visit www.AkuaHinds.com for more information.

 

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